My mamma taught me to never ask these three questions:
1) How old are you?
2) How much to you weigh?
3) How much money do you make?
My mamma is a very wise woman! She taught me to be a polite, southern woman.
But....something happens when you see a baby/child. Everything your mamma taught you seems to fly out the window. People start asking inappropriate questions and make inappropriate comments. It seems to happen a lot more often or be more offensive when it comes to adoption. (I know pregnant women get more than their fair share of awkward moments!)
As adoptive parents we get defensive, we get angry, we get mad. Sorry about that. We can be very, very, very mamma bear about our kids. We want to educate our friends and family. We would love to talk with you about the adoption process. We want you to be on our side.
There is somewhat of a mystery about adoption. It is not how every family is created and grown. I want to help answer questions and remove some of this mystery.
So I am going to disobey my mamma and talk about money.... shhhhh.... don't tell her.
I am often asked how much our adoption cost. Some times I answer this question, some times I don't. It depends on who is asking, where the conversation is happening, and the general tone of the conversation. Because this is a public blog I am going to just talk in broad terms. So you aren't going to get the nitty gritty of our finances, sorry!
International Adoptions - approximately $20,000 to $45,000
Infant Domestic Adoptions - approximately $15,000 to $30,000
State Adoptions - FREE
GULP! Are you suprised? Are you shocked? Most people are. So, after people hear these amounts the next question is: Why does it cost so much? I hope to answer that question in my next post.
What questions do you have? What do you want to know about adoption? If you ask it, I will do my best to answer.
